John 5: 1-8
I remember reading this as a new believer and thought to myself what a silly question for Jesus to ask the man…”Does he want to get well?”—of course he does! He has been crippled for 38 years—what a horrible existence. Clearly, he wants to get well.
But now, with years of counseling under my belt and years studying God’s Word, I realize that what Jesus asked that day was profoundly wise! Because the truth is not everyone wants to be healed from what they are struggling with in life…some just want to complain.
Not because they are bad people but because they must decide for themselves whether they are willing and ready to move on in life or if they get more out of staying stuck. Have they become so comfortable in the victim state that they don’t want to change? Perhaps they are so accustomed to living with a poverty mindset that they don’t trust God to change their lives if they are obedient in handling their finances. It may be that they have a judgment on themselves, such as, “I just always choose bad men in my life,” so they simply keep getting into abusive relationships.
I’ve seen this in myself. My husband and I got into a lot of debt, and it felt impossible to ever get out from underneath it. The idea of “getting well,” meaning being debt-free, was not even considered a possibility in our heads, so we continued our bad behaviors. I whined about being in debt. I got pity from well-meaning friends because of my situation. I felt victimized because I grew up in a household where poor financial management was taught. I blamed my husband. But did I ever choose to get well? Not for about 15 years. Not until it got so miserable and I was so desperate did I “choose to get well.”
We chose to get help, created a budget, disciplined ourselves to do what God said no matter what, and realized financial freedom from debt just 30 months later! God worked in amazing ways once we decided to be obedient, but we had to want to get well first.
How about you? Do you want to get well? It doesn’t matter what you are struggling with… addiction, codependency, debt, anger, poor relationships, poor boundaries, depression, anxiety, gambling, shopping, etc. God is waiting for you to decide to get well.
He isn’t kidding when He tells us to Matthew 11: 28-30
If you want to get well, get the help you need. We are not to try to do life alone. We need wise counsel and the support of others.